How To Connect With Your Spirit Guides

There is a great interest in people wanting to know how to connect with their spirit guides. The reasoning ranges from connecting to the higher frequency energy, receiving guidance that deeply impacts their lives in a superior and positive way. In my opinion this is a natural, universal right, that we all benefit from this connection. It is my  belief that people mistakenly think it’s far more challenging to accomplish this goal than it actually is to connect. I will share some tips on how to do this easily and naturally. Keep in mind that we are never alone, they are with us all along. With these steps that I share it has to do with us putting ourselves in position to better receive their messages and nudges for us to continue on our spiritual journey.

I have had many experiences with my guides and others in the spiritual realm well before I was aware of what was happening. For instance, I remember walking down the hallway in middle school when I randomly asked a question in my head: ‘How will I know my husband when I meet him?’ Immediately, I received the simple response, ‘He will be left-handed.’ At the time that was enough of an answer for me.

Connecting with your spirit guides is a deeply personal and sacred journey, as with any committed relationship, it takes time, trust, openness and vulnerability. It’s vital to use your discernment to make sure that it’s indeed your higher-self or spirit guides, be aware of the energy. We were all taught that when we answer the door to our home we first ask, “who is it”, before allowing them to enter our home. It’s a similar process of using common sense and knowing who you are allowing into your spiritual space. A great practice is to ask yourself questions, such as, what does the energy feel like? Is it warm, loving, supportive? How does it make me feel, safe, comforted and loved or frightened, cold, goosebumps and the hair on the back of your neck standing up? When you’re working with your guides, it’s an incredibly high frequency and loving energy. 

The first time I became fully aware that my guides were in my room, my spiritual space, I freaked out! It was around 5 AM, and I was in my normal meditation, surrounded by a circle of crystals and my white candle. I was in my meditative zone, feeling great, when all of a sudden, I felt that I was not alone. I suddenly seized up like a deer in the headlights. I can still clearly remember exactly where the group of them was standing in my bedroom. It was well before the sun was up, and they were standing in front of my sliding door leading out to the lanai. I was frozen. I couldn’t see them with my naked eye; I felt them. Since I can still see where they were standing, I believe it was with my third eye, but like I said, I was freaking out.

I sat in silence within my crystal circle. I felt frozen for several minutes. I am not sure how long I sat there in fear when I finally heard a voice. The voice was not outside of me but spoken through telepathy. I was asked if I felt threatened. I sat there and did a check on myself and realized that no, I did not feel threatened. Then I was asked if I had the familiar cold chills and goosebumps on my body that I normally received when an earth-bound spirit was near me. I checked in again and answered no. The next question was, was the hair on the back of my neck standing up? Again, a normal reaction to having a spirit stand behind me. I paused and thought about the question and realized the answer was no again. I was also asked if the temperature in the room dropped to a cold temperature. Again my answer was no. All the questions were asked in a very calm, soothing, matter-of-fact fashion. I was then asked, well, how do you feel? Again, I thought about it and said through telepathy that I felt calm, safe, and a loving energy, like a big warm, loving hug. The next thing I heard was, when it’s us, that is how you will feel. We will always feel loving, and you can feel that energy with your heart. You will feel warm, safe, and loving energy from us.

If it’s your desire to go deeper into your spiritual journey, approach it with a willingness to explore the depths of your own inner being or soul, by being willing to be honest with yourself.

Here are some steps you can take to initiate this connection:

Embrace Stillness and Silence:

This can be an incredibly challenging and frightening experience for many people and they resist the process. It would be hugely beneficial to ask yourself, why am I so uncomfortable, why do I resist so hard? So many people fear the silence, it terrifies them and they don’t realize it’s the fear of facing themselves, facing the truth. Being alone with your thoughts is a great way to start your spiritual journey as well as spending time becoming comfortable looking into the mirror and staring into your eyes. When you finally become comfortable looking into your eyes, the next step is to tell yourself “ I love you”, this is a major healthy shift of your energy on your spiritual journey.

When you pass this hurdle, you’re ready to move on to finding a tranquil space where you can be alone with your thoughts. It’s vital to be calm, still and peaceful to connect with them. The monkey mind is a block. You can help still the mind by listening to 111 hz, or whatever sounds resonate with you or focus on deep breathing. Perhaps walking on a nature trail, or sitting by the water, find your path to be in that relaxed state. Some people find it easier to stare at the flame of a candle or a roaring fire as a process of entering the zone. Each of us has our own special way to relax and get into a calm and meditative state enabling you to be in position to open the door to receive them. Remember that they were always there but now you’re finally listening, paying attention.

They gave me the great analogy of meeting up with a friend at a rowdy, noisy local bar or party. The desire is to talk and catch up but the music is too distracting and people are being too loud for you to hear a word that your friend is speaking. This is the frustrating situation that we are dealing with on most days, way too many things vying for our attention.

Something that was brought to my attention is to mention how you may keep waking up in the middle of the night around 3:00 AM or so, this is a sign. In the beginning when they were working hard to get my attention to work with me I kept waking up. Some people call it the witching hour, which is when the veil between the physical and spiritual worlds are at their thinnest. If you noticed this pattern of waking up for no logical reason at 3, then it’s a strong indication of spiritual awakening or that your guides are creating the opportunity for you to go deep into your spirituality and soul evolution.

Set Your Intention:

It sounds simple but setting your intention is vital not just in connecting with your spirit guides, but in everything that you desire to create and materialize in the physical world. You may feel silly like you’re speaking to thin air, but do it anyway, tell them that your intention is to connect with your spirit guides. You desire to build a strong relationship with your guides in order to easily receive their messages and guidance. State your intention clearly aloud, there is power in words and they have vibration. Let them know that you are open to receiving their guidance, wisdom, and love, all for your highest and greatest good. It’s important to remember that your guides are said to have trained to work with you specifically, they know you better than you know yourself. They are waiting for you to be ready to tune into them, connect with them and be able to receive their guidance. They desire to help you navigate your life’s journey. We are not meant to do this life alone with a blindfold, yet many people proceed to live their lives in this way. Wondering why things are so difficult, why life isn’t working out in a positive way, not realizing that they have been trying to be in control and navigate all on their own.

Cultivate Gratitude

This may seem odd, perhaps you wonder, wouldn’t I feel gratitude after I meet my spirit guides, after they’ve helped me? That’s not a successful way to work with gratitude. You feel the gratitude in your heart as if the wish has already manifested. Of course it has come true. Again to connect with spiritual beings we need to be at a higher frequency. The earth is a heavy and dense frequency, think of all the pain and suffering surrounding us and impacting our energy. Does it feel good? No, it does not. If you had a choice you would go to a location that feels good to you. Think about driving late at night in a scary place, nothing happened but you’re terrified and it feels awful living in the energy of fear. This seems to be the norm for the average person to be daily feeling fear, anxiety, stress, depression, unfilled and empty. Do you think a high frequency being wants to lower their vibration to swim in that dense cesspool of our reality? No they don’t. So it’s important for us to do our part of raising our frequency.

Gratitude is a powerful vibration that aligns you with the energy of abundance and connection. Take a moment to express gratitude for the presence of your spirit guides in your life, even if you haven’t fully felt their presence yet. Trust that they’re always with you, guiding you and by raising your frequency you can better receive your spirit guides’ messages. One wonderful way to raise your frequency is by repeating phrases such as ‘I am grateful’ or ‘What vibrational frequency can I become to feel love abundantly?’ or ‘I have more and more love and joy in my life every day’, ‘I AM grateful to receive signs and messages from my guides’, ‘Thank you for assistance in guiding me to a healthier and happier life’. Say the affirmations that resonate with you and help you to feel lighter and happier. 

A great example that they gave me was imagine yourself swimming at the bottom of a deep pool and someone is trying to speak with you. It’s impossible to hear what they are trying to communicate to you.

Engage Your Imagination:

This is the way to create anything that you desire. If you can dream it or see it then have the feeling of excitement in the belief that it’s already materialized for you. If you can’t dream or imagine something coming to you then you are blocking the manifestation. Step into the childlike energy and daydream with the innocence of a child. Imagine yourself surrounded by a radiant light of gold or brilliant white, a beacon of love and protection. Visualize your spirit guides stepping forward from this light, their presence filling you with warmth and reassurance. Allow your imagination to create a space where communication can flow freely.

This interaction started for me in my childhood. I would have experiences in my sleep. I knew that there was something to my dreams, they felt too real and I would wake up exhausted! I often dreamt of deceased people, people I’ve never met and even God. I dreamt of places that I had never been. I often feel that when we are sleeping and let our souls soar, that’s our ‘real’ life as opposed to this half-asleep living in our programmed worlds.

We often receive a great deal of guidance in our sleep because we are not afraid and we are more open to receive. We just allow the energy and the guidance to flow into our consciousness. I believe many people experience their guides first in the dream realm.

I have learned that the way to know if you are experiencing this is that the information that comes through stays with you for a prolonged period of time, even years. It doesn’t fade away like a normal dream. Also after an important download we wake up immediately after the experience. Another sign is that you can feel their presence linger in the room still, sometimes even a fragrance is hanging in the air.

The most important experience I had with my guides was when my child was young. I was exhausted and sleeping in my bed with him. I heard screaming, ”wake up, wake up, wake up! You’re killing him! I woke up and looked, I was wrapped in the comforter and laying on top of my baby! So you can see, they’re always there and trying to help you. I can’t imagine the nightmare my life would have been if they hadn’t saved my baby. That time in my life was ruled by emotional and physical exhaustion.

An important detail to mention is if you are taking medication to help you sleep it acts as a block. I was taking melatonin and or benadryl after both my parents passed away. I was having terrible issues with insomnia. The very first reading I received by a deeply trusted friend, my mom came through and told me I was missing a lot of information. I was not remembering the teaching, interaction and information that I was being given in my sleep. Sleep aids do interfere with our recollection of our experiences in the spiritual realm. It is worth mentioning for you to do your own scientific experiments to find if it’s true for you as well.

Listen with Your Heart:

It’s beneficial to work with tools such as crystal bowls, 528 Hz, Tibetan singing bowls, and any heart chakra healing practices that resonate with you. You want to be in the best shape to open your heart up to receive. A heavy, guarded and blocked heart is not going to allow you to feel the love of your spirit guides or in general, the love surrounding you in your life in general. Heart work is incredibly important for us to do in order to successfully have the human experience. We are meant to love while we are on the planet, not to be in fear and anger.

We all receive messages differently depending on what our spiritual strengths are, what’s our strongest psychic intuitive gift? You want to tune into your inner senses, paying attention to your solar plexus (gut) and heart, and listen for the subtle whispers of your spirit guides. They may speak to you through feelings, images, words, or omens. They may be trying to get your attention through repeating numbers, finding feathers, or cardinals knocking on your window or even a repeated phrase that you keep hearing. Trust the messages that come to you, even if they seem faint or unclear at first. With practice, your ability to receive guidance will strengthen. There are techniques to use to build and strengthen your various psychic abilities. Like anything else in life that you want to become an expert at, it takes time, dedication and practice. Keep in mind as you start working with your spiritual team that it’s exciting, exhilarating even and you will keep thinking, is this real? You will be given ample support and evidence that yes, it’s real. The other important thing to mention is that as you evolve on your spiritual path there will be times where you feel stuck and stagnant. It’s very frustrating because you’re so excited for more and more knowledge and interaction. It’s extremely necessary that we pause, known as the void. Patience is needed at this stage because the frustration can be overwhelming. We need to assimilate the knowledge and experiences to become a part of us as wisdom and what we are and not simply what we do.

Create a Sacred Ritual:

Rituals can be powerful tools for deepening your connection with your spirit guides. Consider lighting a candle, burning incense, or using crystals to enhance your spiritual practice or for building the gateway. It also is beneficial to ring the chimes three times to clear any stagnant energy by raising the vibration. Once you set the stage, using your tools, sitting in your sacred space your guides will recognize that you’re ready to work with them. Find rituals that resonate with you and incorporate them into your daily routine or whatever you feel guided to do. If you start off with once a week, that’s still an improvement.

I used the same green lazy boy chair for many years to meditate and do my sessions with clients. Even the chair was programmed because as soon as I sat down and closed my eyes I would immediately slip into a meditative state. It was a great tool for me to give reading in and to easily slip into meditation. I could feel my whole body relax when I sat down. I remember being on a video call one time and the person said they could see in my eyes that I was in the zone.

Trust the Process:

Remember that connecting with your spirit guides is a journey, not a destination. Trust in divine timing and remain patient and open-hearted as you cultivate this relationship. Know that your guides are always there for you, ready to offer their support and guidance whenever you need it. I have formed deep, loving relationships with my guides where I never feel alone. Before I became deeply aware of them, I felt separated and lonely for a good part of my life. I gained spiritual friendships or more likely a renewal of friendships that I couldn’t remember when I incarnated on earth.

Reflecting on what you have read…

By following these steps with sincerity,  and dedication, you can establish a profound and meaningful connection with your spirit guides, enriching your life with their wisdom, love, and guidance.

Ask yourself the following questions:

What personal rituals can you establish to enhance your connection with your spirit guides?

How do practices like meditation or the use of crystals help in tuning into the guidance offered by your spirit guides?

What are some signs that may indicate your spirit guides are trying to communicate with you?

Reflect on a time when you felt a deep sense of intuition or guidance. Could this have been an interaction with your spirit guides?

How can setting clear intentions aid in receiving clearer messages from your spirit guides?

In what ways can cultivating gratitude and trust enhance your relationship with your spirit guides?